Authentic Relationships


In authentic relationship we know someone – that is where we experience the relationship.  But it is because we have built trust because of the love that we have for each other.  In our personal relationship with our heavenly Father, it always starts with His love for us first and then the fact that He is so faithful.  We can absolutely trust Him, and yet we always struggle with fully trusting Him because of our humanness and sometimes outside influences.  We have all heard the story of Adam and Eve, right?  They walked and talked with God every day in the most beautiful garden, but they listened to an opposing view and chose not to trust God.  Now we know that there is not anyone that is authentic like God, so His standard is perfect; and yet we know that God has chosen to have relationship with us in our human frailty and He has made a way for that to happen.  His name is Jesus.  This passage from Isaiah 11 speaks of the Messianic age and the impact on our world.


Because of our life being altered and blessed in fellowship with Jesus, we can also have authentic relationship with those around us and again, it has to be about love and trust.  God has made a way for us as His children to experience abundant life and He has promised us that we have everything we need for life and godliness.  In 2 Peter 1 it says this:

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and goodness.  Through these He has given us His very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires..   It goes on to explains that the resources are there for us to be successful and yet we have to choose to add to our faith, goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.  For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.  But if anyone does not have them, he is near-sighted and blind, and has forgotten that he has been cleansed from his past sins.  Therefore, my brothers, be all the more eager to make your calling and election sure.   For if you do these things, you will never fall, and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

It is about our character and we have the responsibility for our own behaviors.  Because we love someone and we are committed to the relationship and to the cause – His purposes always and His glory and the good of others – we can and we must choose to honor others by trusting their heart when we don’t like or agree with their behaviors.  We have to remember what we KNOW about them and about God.   

Knowing someone is about our times of sharing our hearts with each other in the joy and sorrows that come with life.  There is such a bond and a knowing in being together in the good and the bad.  That is how we form those close  intimate relationships that mean so much to us.  We come to understand how the other person thinks and responds and we can even anticipate what they will need from us. It is a way for us to serve one another and really be able to love and give of ourselves.

In our work and in our places of worship, like here at Side by Side Ministries; we aspire to be in this kind of authentic relationship with our friends and family.  In fact, we want to be that for each other and for those that come through our doors looking for authenticity.  We hope to model and mentor healthy relationships.  It has to start with our most important relationship and that is with the Holy Trinity. We are called to live as children of God and in that, we have been redeemed to live and love the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.  As those relationships are restored and healthy, we can also be restored in all the relationships we have with those around us.  We can be content and fulfilled in knowing our Lord and Savior loves us and walks with us in everything we do.

How are you doing in your close interpersonal relationships?   How are you loving and serving?  Can you trust God and others in your circumstances of life?  Remember what you know about that person and trust them in the things that don’t make sense at times.  Trusting their heart will help you and the other person to come through it as you honor them and be true to who you are also.  Love is the most excellent way.